Why women have affairs?
Talk about a loaded subject that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be loaded with problems, cause heartache, and other problems. In addition you should wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty issue, money, age dissimilarity, religious education, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seeking affair. I am sure generally though it is only the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a few explanations I have run across.
Physically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasurable and exciting, and sex makes us get away the real world for a short period of time. This euphoria exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to turn the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and old, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the exhilaration of the chase. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos the world has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many people the yearnings will beat their fears and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is extremely pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not hurt your family or anybody else? You would need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest group, gigantic actually. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your finances are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair from time to time solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a frequent reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his wife for a tones of reasons. As a male I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your girls and making them available to us males of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Then there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a shortage of love, could be compassion is disappeared, maybe it is the closeness, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply developed distantly, our ordinary concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I just do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for financial gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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